Oppose my views? Fine, but don’t take it out on my family

So I wasn’t going to write about this, but in light of some of the things which have been said today around politics and the invasion into the privacy of politicians’ families, I thought I would bring it up and highlight that it permeates all levels of politics, right to the grass roots.

A few weeks ago, I got my first piece of hate mail, which I can only assume was as a cause of me being publicly very supportive of equal marriage. It was anonymous (typed on a typewriter – how archaic!) and put through my mother’s door addressed directly to her accusing me of being in a relationship with a well known local gay politician. It read:

“Congratulations to Glyn and [politician] on their ‘relationship’.”

So, firstly, to correct a couple of fun inaccuracies…

1) Er, I’m not gay
I can only assume the letter is worded as it is because the author thinks I must be gay if I support equal marriage. Er, no. I don’t support equal marriage out of self interest, I support it because it’s right. Although actually there is some self interest here, because marriage as it currently stands is devalued for me as my gay friends are prohibited from entering into an institution to which I am able. I do not wish to join a group to which my friends, peers and betters do not have the same access.

(Incidentally, I’m single because of sheer incompetence (lack of confidence?) with women. If I were gay, I’d be equally incompetent with men)

2) The insinuation that I might be gay doesn’t offend me
Because, seriously, what’s there to be offended about?

OK, onto the serious part, which is that the letter was placed through my mother’s door and addressed directly to her. OK, it was soft, but my mum did not appreciate getting it, and nor should she have to. My mum has nothing to do with my politics or my choosing to do this as a career. I am not an elected politician or to date have even stood for elected office. What is disgusting is that the letter was purposely aimed at a member of family, rather than being addressed to me directly. That is sad, and pathetic. I have no objection with directly debating why I support equal marriage with anyone.

So, if you do oppose my views, I don’t mind. But please do tell me directly to my face, or online at least. I’m easily contactable.

But, of course, be prepared to lose the argument.


2 thoughts on “Oppose my views? Fine, but don’t take it out on my family

  1. Sorry to hear this Glyn. Some people out there assume a great deal about LGBT or LGBT supportive people. They also assume that everyone who isn’t LGBT must share their prejudices.

    I know of one case where workers for a rival party tried to sway Christian voters against voting for me because I am gay, only problem is that the one person that let me know about this was wavering until they tried to smear me, then were solidly in my camp.

    Keep up winning the arguments.

  2. I think it is beautiful that you believe marriage is devalued for you because your gay friends aren’t able to marry. Very poignant amid various debates on how equal marriage would devalue an age old institution.
    I’m sorry you and your family had to deal with this but you responded very well.

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